Sexual Enhancement For Women/Men
About 10-15% of women in the United States have never experienced an orgasm. Over half of American women use a vibrator and between 33% and 50% are dissatisfied with the number of orgasms they feel. Interestingly, women can give themselves an orgasm in 4 minutes on average by masturbating but with their partner it take 10-20 minutes.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) in men is the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough to have sexual intercourse.
Occasional ED isn’t uncommon. Many men experience it during times of stress. Frequent ED, however, can be a sign of health problems that need treatment. It can also be a sign of emotional or relationship difficulties that may need to be addressed by a professional.
There are many possible causes of ED, and they can include both emotional and physical conditions. Common causes include:
Cardiovascular disease, diabetes hypertension, hypercholesterolemia, obesity, low testosterone levels or other hormone imbalances, stress, anxiety, and depression.
Being able to manage stress is essential to maintaining and enhancing your libido. Getting enough sleep is important as well as this will help with stress management. Good sleep will also help give you enough energy to even consider having sex.
In general, most women and men need 6-8 hours of sleep per night. This is known to help improve your mood and memory. Your hormone levels will also become more balanced with adequate sleep. Your stress hormone levels of cortisol will be improved when you get enough sleep. This has the additional benefit of helping to reduce excess body fat because cortisol effects your blood sugar levels.
Again, diet is very important as diabetes and blood sugar problems with effect your sex drive and stress management ability. Your hormone levels will be effected by eating too much sugar and too little protein and vegetables. Vitamins and minerals in your food are co-factors need for cellular function in every cell in your body.
Your personal attitude towards sex and your mental health can have an impact on your sexual health. Being able to be present in the moment (mindfulness) and focus on your senses is very important for a healthy sex life.
For example, thinking about that you need to get at the grocery store while having foreplay can make it very difficult to get sexually aroused. Certainly, arousal does not equal desire but being in the moment can reduce your stress levels and that can be quite helpful.
Novelty is important for sexual desire and finding new ways to make sex exciting for you and your partner is important. Also, seeing yourself as a sexual goddess can be helpful, or at least feeling sexy about yourself and having a positive body image.
Oxytocin is a natural hormone that your body makes when you are aroused or have an orgasm. Oxytocin levels also increase when you make eye contact with someone or touch someone. All the activities have one important thing in common: human bonding. Oxytocin is the cuddle hormone and has a profound impact on your mood and sexual desire level. Oxytocin also helps reduce stress and anxiety by reducing your cortisol levels. To learn more about oxytocin, visit our Mood Enhancement page.→
Women who take oral contraceptive pills (birth control pills) will have disrupted oxytocin levels. In addition, birth control pills can greatly decrease testosterone levels further reducing libido and your ability to orgasm. Certainly birth control pills don’t do this in every woman or they would sell much less but for women who started experiencing problems after beginning birth control this is a likely explanation.